Wednesday, 1 August 2012

Moving On...

Last weekend we helped some close friends move 125 miles to start a new life in Norfolk.  I am very excited for them (apart from anything else their new house is amazing!) but also very sad that my closest friend is now 4 hours away.

Part of the mixed bag of emotions I’m feeling is linked to wondering whether we’ll ever get the opportunity to start ‘a new life’ somewhere else.  My Other Half was adamant that he wouldn’t stay in the town he went to university in and before I found out I was pregnant with Meg we had started to look at a move to Australia.  Of course the pregnancy stopped that in it’s tracks, so we ended up staying where we were (in my Other Half’s university town!).

A month or so ago I wrote about the possibility of change for us and that was linked with a job opportunity in New Zealand.  Unfortunately that fell through but the more I think it over the more I know I’m experiencing ‘itchy feet syndrome’ and the feeling of wanting to be somewhere else!

We’re both heavily involved in our community here and my parents moved to be closer once we’d had Meg so in some ways it’s difficult to see how we would ever manage to move on.  Plus, Meg will be starting school next September so we’d really like to avoid upheaval, but all that considered...I would still love to move!!

I don’t want to stay in the same place simply because we never had the ‘guts’ to try somewhere new.  Equally, I don’t want to stay because we feel like we have to.  At the very least it should be because we want to.  It's not because I think that moving somewhere new will solve all our day to day troubles, I'm not so naive as that.  I have always wanted to travel and whilst having children has momentarily suspended that dream, it is quite possibly what is driving my desire to move somewhere new.  I want to experience something different!

I think at the moment we’re in the right place and we’ve got a lot going on here but (I don’t know how, and I don’t know when) at some point in the future I hope to be writing about an impending move!

And it’s exciting to think that in a few years everything could be different!  Watch this space!

10 comments:

  1. Hi there

    I know exactly how you feel. I lived abroad for four years when I was younger and had terribly itchy feet when I got home. That was 16 years ago now, (how time flys) but I still like to think that I will have another adventure at some point in my life. Life is too short to have regrets, so if it's something you dream off, go all out to get that dream. Just remember as you rightly pointed out, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Bills still need paying, work still has to be done. But your sense of achieving your dream will be enough for a while, and there is always the university twon to come back to if all else fails... Wishing you luck in following your dream.

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    1. Thanks for the reply hun. Hopefully we will make a decision soon about what our long term goal is!

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  2. My father, mother and young sister emigrated to Australia when Dad was 55 and he never looked back. One by one the rest of my brothers and sisters followed them. We stayed because my husband felt he had commitments to his widowed mum and grandmother (other reasons as well such as children's education). Anyway, now his mum and grandmother are dead we are the only ones here. My children are married now and I have grandchildren here.
    My siblings visit from Australia and we visit them, but I wonder what might have been? Who knows. All I know is I am happy to be me and happy to be here.

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    1. Thanks for commenting. I guess it's wondering whether I can live with the 'what if' part of not moving. We've a lot of thinking to do!

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  3. I moved to Ireland over the sea from my sister & best friend, I love it here but often wish I hadn't if I could go back in time I wouldn't move - just saying think very carefully xx

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    1. Thanks hun, I am struggling with not being as close to my best friend already so I do think we've got some serious talking to do before we decide what's best for us x

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  4. Oh I do understand your dilemma. As an expat I can say that I'm really happy living abroad BUT of course there are things (particularly family and friends) to miss about home. Having grandparents living locally must be amazing. Sounds like you're in the right place for now -and who knows what the future will bring? x

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  5. Caught between a rock and a hard place, you have your community and friends and family on your doorstep, but then you have wander lust in your feet - maybe when the kids are older (???) you can realise your dream to move abroad perhaps? :o)

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  6. Any progress since this post?? I know exactly how you feel, as we probably have permanently itchy feet. However we are also heavily involved here with friends and a really GREAT church which we love. It has been that which has kept us...and the fact that now our kids are older it's harder to go. We've seen friends move to Australia and we have sold our house once in order to move to Bath, but then felt it wasn't right so stayed put. I still feel like you though - would hate to stay here just because we were too 'chicken'. Right now, for the first time, I think we feel settled. I don't imagine moving on now until our kids are all grown up. Thanks for linking up to Oldies but Goodies - a lovely post :)

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  7. Itchy feet, I know that feeling well. I'm currently thinking over a move that would take me back to where I grew up - the place that many years ago I couldn't wait to leave. I know it's not the same as emigrating to Australia, but to do it would change my life just as massively.

    I think you will know eventually what to do. If you're happy where you are then there's no rush, so take your time to come to the right decision for you.

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